“Everything happens for the best.” I loathe that phrase. You never hear it when something good happens. It only comes bleating around with bad news. I don’t care if the person saying it “knows what you’re going through” or has “been there, done that.” When you JUST get that piece of bad news, the last thing you want to hear is this kind of mealy-mouthed anti-help bull.
And yet. Looking back, I can’t deny that this trite phrase has come true so often I could have bet on it and become a billionaire.
Disappointment: Getting the axe from a company I thought I’d be a lifer in. Thanks, economy.
Mid-point: Contracting with a company using the skills and experience from my old company.
“It Happened For the Best”: Finding my permanent job with my increased skills and experience from the contract jobs.
I would never ever have thought I’d end up where I am now. I could only see as far ahead as the “What do I do now?” refrain when my old boss told me my position had been eliminated and walked me to HR (to his credit, he was all choked up, but then our marketing department was unusually close-knit).
He wasn’t the one who told me that loathsome phrase; a co-worker who had retained her job did that. I knew she meant well. I knew intellectually she had the wisdom to back it up. Emotionally, I was just not willing to accept what I saw as empty words, especially from someone standing in her cube while I was emptying out mine.
I accept them now. Losing my job forced me to expand myself in directions I wouldn’t have in that company. I met wonderful people at the contract company, people who became best friends, people who I still talk to today. Now I’m in a great job with other wonderful people because I took a chance at an opportunity. I didn’t take many chances or opportunities in my old job. I needed to be pushed to grow.
I can’t say I’ll be so enlightened every time something brings my plans to a crashing halt. Even though I can draw a line between then and now, disappointment-to-blessing isn’t generally a linear process.
But I might as well try to skip over the ire, angst and worry, and save my energy for making “the best” happen a little sooner.
And because this is career-related and you may be hovering shy of the mid-point or just got the disappointment, check out 5 Things You Can Do When You Get the Axe, one of my guest posts on myFootpath’s career blog. Another by-product of my disappointment!
One last quote: “A positive attitude may not solve all of your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.” ~Herm Albright